My very first day….

This is my first blog ever. I’ll be honest with you and try to enunciate my opinions towards broader issues which is affecting and influencing India’s interest. To be honest I am not very well versed at articulating and that’s why I am here to learn the skill, hope we’ll work in tandem to make this world particularly India a better place.

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The inner strength of Happiness…

Well, it is highly subjective point, nevertheless according to me, Happiness is the by-product of doing right things in right direction. 

I’d like to tweak the words of our father of nation : ” Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony “
He eloquently describes the nexus between real happiness & true strength, as the former has its genesis in the later and vice- versa.

.Therefore, to be Happy in real terms, one must have strengthen in body, mind & spirit.

We both left home at 18

We both left home at 18
You cleared JEE,
I got recommended.
You got IIT,
I got NDA.
You pursued your degree,
I had the toughest training.
Your day started at 7 and ended at 5,
Mine started at 4 till 9 and
Some nights also included.
You had your convocation ceremony,
I had my POP.
Best company took you and
Best package was awarded,
I was ordered to join my paltan
With 2 stars piped on my shoulders.
You got a job,
I got a way of life.
Every eve you got to see your family,
I just wished i got to see my parents soon.
You celebrated festivals with lights and music,
I celebrated with my comrade in bunkers.
We both married,
Your wife got to see you everyday,
My wife just wished i was alive.
You were sent to business trips,
I was sent on line of control.
We both returned,
Both wives couldn’t control their tears, but
You wiped her but,
I couldn’t.
You hugged her but,
I couldn’t.
Because I was lying in the coffin,
With medals on my chest and,
Coffin wrapped with tricolour.
My way of life ended,
Your continued.

We both left home at 18.

Source : Facebook.

-Shared by Advit Verma,Army Public School, Ambala Cantonment

A parable- Season 4

​Potatoes, Eggs, and Coffee Beans


Once upon a time a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn’t know how she was going to make it. She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. It seemed just as one problem was solved, another one soon followed.

Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Once the three pots began to boil, he placed potatoes in one pot, eggs in the second pot, and ground coffee beans in the third pot.

He then let them sit and boil, without saying a word to his daughter. The daughter, moaned and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing.

After twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He took the potatoes out of the pot and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl.

He then ladled the coffee out and placed it in a cup. Turning to her he asked. “Daughter, what do you see?”

“Potatoes, eggs, and coffee,” she hastily replied.

“Look closer,” he said, “and touch the potatoes.” She did and noted that they were soft. He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. Its rich aroma brought a smile to her face.

“Father, what does this mean?” she asked.

He then explained that the potatoes, the eggs and coffee beans had each faced the same adversity– the boiling water.

However, each one reacted differently.

The potato went in strong, hard, and unrelenting, but in boiling water, it became soft and weak.

The egg was fragile, with the thin outer shell protecting its liquid interior until it was put in the boiling water. Then the inside of the egg became hard.

However, the ground coffee beans were unique. After they were exposed to the boiling water, they changed the water and created something new.

“Which are you,” he asked his daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a potato, an egg, or a coffee bean? “

Moral:In life, things happen around us, things happen to us, but the only thing that truly matters is what happens within us.

Which one are you?

A Parable- Season III

First, I sincerely apologise for posting after a while. 

When I was in the 11th standard and I always missed the tuition classes(6 am in the morning) on a regular basis sometimes due to rain,lethargicness,etc. So,one day the teacher asked the reason as to why I missed classes regulary. I muttered, “Sir, I cannot wake up early in the morning!” He chuckled and narrated the story of a boy whom he taught Mathematics and whose words still give him goose bumps!

Most of us donot take our sophomore year seriously. But,there was this particular boy who was always consistent and came regulary to the class even if it rained cats and dogs or even if he suffered from acute/chronic illnesses.
So, on his last class the teacher said to him, “How did you manage to not even miss a single class? Why are you being so persistent and punctual in the 11th standard itself?”.

He smiled and replied, “Sir, When the seeds of grain are sown in the soil, they are subject to annihilation. So,if they are not taken care of in the initial stage,they become vulnerable to pests and insects. And once that happens,they never sprout and grow up. These seeds are my dreams! If I donot nurture and nourish them now, they will never show up in the future. And, if I take care of them from the initial stage itself, one day the seeds will sprout and grow up to be large wheat plants and no pest/insect will be able to destory it!”.

Sir was awestruck and didn’t say anything for a minute.
He was actually taking about his dream of becoming a successful engineer. He studied his 11/12th religiously and rigorously. He never made his attempts ephemeral. And it was his this dream,his passion,his will and determination that facilitated him to clear IIT-JEE and later on, his hard work and efforts fetched him a seat for masters in the prestigious Massachusetts Institute of Technology(MIT), Cambridge, USA.
His dedication in the past is all what made him what he is today. His journey from a small seed to a full-fledged brightly shining wheat plant swaying merrily in the fields under the luminous blue sky!

Lesson of the dayDo not wait to strike till the iron is hot; but make it hot by striking. – William Butler Yeats

A Parable – season 2

It’s been a year I started working with an NGO concerned with environmental issues and awareness towards deteriorating condition of ecosystem.

Since its very inception people used to told us,
-” you are going to be failed miserably in this task”
– ” this is an overwhelming challenge to plant trees ”
– ” Why do you want to make change when everyone else is polluting?”
– ” stop trying because it would be futile to educate masses about environment when they don’t have sustenance”

Nonetheless with all the demotivation, discouragement and disappointment by our society, a little parable helps me to figure this out dilemma and invariably fills me with brimming enthusiasm.

The Small bird & forest fire

There was a huge forest fire that caused all the animals to flee. During all that chaos, when everyone was running away trying to escape, a small bird is flying towards the fire with a drop of water in its beak in an attempt to extinguish it. The other animals laughed and said you havent got any power, you cant do anything to stop it, just run away like everyone else. The small bird replied that when the fire does eventually die out, I want my name to be included in the list of those who helped extinguish it.


#never stop trying
#Being Relentless

A Parable…

​A gentleman was walking through an elephant camp, and he spotted that the elephants weren’t being kept in cages or held by the use of chains. All that was holding them from escaping the camp, was a small piece of rope tied to one of their legs.

As the man gazed upon the elephants, he was completely confused as to why the elephants didn’t just use their strength to break the rope and escape the camp. They could easily have done so, but instead they didn’t try to at all.

Curious and wanting to know the answer, he asked a trainer nearby why the elephants were just standing there and never tried to escape.The trainer answered:

“when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and, at that age, it’s enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free.”

Sometimes it is just the fear or our mental conditioning that does not allow us to break free.Courage is not the absence of fear, it is the ability to overcome fear.
We would have all achieved so much if we did not have fears.
The fear of failing.
The fear of judgement.
The fear of rejection.
The fear of an unstable future.
The fear of death.
All of us have feared scoring less in examinations, and only those who were prepared and studied hard enough went on to score well. They prepared themselves accordingly and their fear vanished.
Do you think all the successful people out there do not have fears?
Every business decision, every risky investment option, every peaceful monk, every over achieving athlete face fears every single day. They prepare or are skilled naturally enough to overcome their fears.
You are either a batsman on a duck or 99, it is all about that courage to take that single run to get through. The means to overcome it depends on you, whether you will take calculated risks or barge in with a ‘do or die’ attitude.
Let the fear go for what might be the worst thing that might happen?
Mentally strong people also fail, they also give up, they also feel dejected. They just know how to stand up, brush off all the negativity and overcome their fears of being judged or failing again.
We are the sum of what we think at the end of the day!
Courtesy: Alacatraz dey ( human behaviourist)

Louder the Screams, Higher the cost…

Rekha* was returning from school on a Wednesday afternoon, when she was abducted and gang raped by four men in Chapar village, Muzaffarnagar, Uttar Pradesh. If the crime was not brutal enough, the men recorded the entire incident on their mobile phones. Rekha pleaded with them to delete the clip in exchange of keeping mum. But, they did not relent. A few months later, Rekha’s cousin came up to her and showed her a WhatsApp forward. It was the video of her rape. She was shocked. It was then Rekha decided to tell her parents about the incident, who later approached the police for help. However, what they found out was even more disturbing. Rekha’s video had been sold to many men in the name of rape porn. Shockingly, hers was not alone. The police discovered that a local mobile recharge shop owner was selling the videos to eager customers for Rs 500.

Rape Porn Is a Booming Business in Uttar Pradesh
Unfortunately, rape videos or local films as they are called, are selling like hot cakes in UP and other parts of India. According to a report published in the Deccan Chronicle, the business is flourishing right under the nose of the Naka Hindola police station which is barely 500 metres away from these shops. Sources claim the cops receive a hefty amount on a monthly basis for allowing the business to continue.

Unfortunately, rape videos or local films as they are called, are selling like hot cakes in UP. Photo Courtesy: Twitter
“The days of pirated films are over. Nowadays rape videos are in demand. Filming a rape has become popular. The duration is anything between 10 minutes and 30 minutes and the video is sold for anywhere between Rs 300 and Rs 500, depending on how explicit it is,” says Rakesh* who runs the business of selling local films, in an interview to Deccan Chronicle.

“Rape videos are made available to public by various agents. Our men buy these videos for Rs 2,000 to Rs 5,000 and we clean the clips before putting them out in the market. Clean up means blurring of rapist’s face but not the victims. Those with an audio track (read screams) are more expensive,” he continues.
Shooting Videos During Rape Is Not Just For Blackmail
If living with the stigma of rape is not arduous enough, the disgusting trend of digitally documenting the horrific crime is making the lives of victims miserable. Not to mention, fuelling a whole new market of rape porn. As appalling as it sounds, this disgusting industry is making big bucks on the expense of the dignity and the lives of rape victims. Because as the name suggests, rape porn is shot while the crime is taking place. It’s not fiction or make-believe. It’s the truth in its ugliest form.

But, who derives pleasure from watching women in agony, you might wonder. Well, lots of men. And that is why rape porn is such a hit among the Indian masses. Priced between Rs 300 to Rs 500, these WhatsApp sex videos are available for purchase all across the country.
As appalling as it sounds, this disgusting industry is making big bucks. Photo Courtesy: Twitter
This brings us to a very important question…

Why do men want to see a woman getting brutalized to attain sexual gratification?
The answer lies in the suppression of sexuality as far as the Indian society is concerned, which leads to curiosity. In an interview to Hindustan Times, Dr Sameer Malhotra, head of mental health and behavioural sciences, Max Healthcare said, “Sexuality is often a non-discussed topic and that leads to curiosity. Many a times, people can actually be suffering from paraphilia, a condition characterised by abnormal sexual desires”.

And that’s not the only reason why rape porn thrives. It’s a rage because some men in India have internalized the right to suppress women and see them as mere sexual objects.

“Indulging in rape pornography has a lot to do with culture. In a largely male-dominated and patriarchal society like India, society suppresses women. So, when they see torture being inflicted on a woman in such videos, their perverted tendencies tend to rise to the surface and they derive sexual pleasure out of it,” told Gurgoan-based counsellor Vipula Gupta to indiatimes.com.

Indulging in rape pornography has a lot to do with culture. Photo Courtesy: Twitter

With the market of rape porn already milking huge profits, we can’t ignore the fact that it poses yet another threat to women safety. One that needs to be curtailed immediately.

(* Names have been changed to protect identity)
Courtesy: Sarwat Fatima (oddnaari)

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